Good Sunday afternoon, readers. Today I have the honor of Cheri Swalwell on my blog. Cheri wrote the best devotional books I have ever read. Today I’m featuring volume 1: A 40-Day Habit Between Friends–Taking it to the Next Level. This book of devotions is a must-read for any married woman. I asked Cheri to supply her favorite from the book and (honest-to-goodness) her favorite is mine too. If you leave a comment here I will draw one lucky winner to get my copy next Monday. It’s too good to remain on my shelf!
I Corinthians 10:31: “…whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.”
I love doing laundry. Most people hate this chore, but for some reason I find it very relaxing. It’s even better spring through fall when I can hang it on the line during the day and save money on electricity. It also gives me a little extra time to myself since my children seem to scatter when clothes comes out of the washer. One thing about laundry, though, is it’s never done. There is never a time when the hamper is completely empty and that feeling of satisfaction sinks in.
I also enjoy mowing the lawn. Not only is it good exercise and gets me outside in the fresh air, but it’s a job I can do that stays that way for at least a few days, if not a week, depending on how much rain we get (or most of the summer this year thanks to the drought). I can look outside and feel good about completing a task that stays finished for longer than a few hours.
Isn’t marriage a lot like laundry and mowing the lawn? Both jobs are time consuming, but only one gives a return immediately while the other never seems to give a lasting return at all. In order to have a good marriage, a lot of time needs to be invested. During the dating stage, it’s a lot like mowing the lawn. Both people are appreciative of the little things done for the other, each is putting their best foot forward to impress one another, quirks are thought of as cute, and misunderstandings are forgiven immediately. The time and effort put in is looked forward to.
Then comes happily ever after. The wedding is over, the honeymoon is slowly fading from memory, and reality sets in. Kids come, repairs need to be made which require money that might not be available, and energy weakens. Now life is more like laundry. The same amount of effort is still required, but the rewards aren’t as long lasting. Maybe each spouse is exhausted from lack of sleep and hectic schedules, maybe grudges are being held over big and small issues, the cute quirks of the past are becoming annoyances, and neither person wants to get up from the couch during their favorite television show to clean up the flood in the bathroom from their child’s reenactment of the Titanic.
However, as I said above, I love mowing the lawn and doing laundry. I loved the dating years where everything was new and exciting, but I also love the sometimes ordinary and mundane aspects of married life as well. The rewards might not be as apparent as fresh cut grass, but they are still there and sometimes they are more appreciated for just that reason. There is the shoulder rub followed by a lingering kiss from the man of my dreams as he walks by when I’ve been working for hours or his decision to take time off from work so I don’t have to go to the doctor alone. And, he will get up during his favorite TV show to stop the remake of the Titanic in our bathroom before its final scene. There is also the shared laughter at private jokes during dinner while our kids look at us as if we’re crazy or sometimes me choosing to let go of my pride to work out a disagreement before it escalates into a full-blown argument. So which do you like better – mowing the grass or doing laundry? If you look hard enough, pleasure can be found in both.
Cheri Swalwell is a wife, mother, and avid reader, but first and foremost she is a Christ follower. She has a degree in Psychology and has been blessed to be a guest on a variety of blogs including Christiandevotions.us, Circle of Friends, and Crosswalk.com/family. She is a regular contributor to book fun magazine. If you want to hear more about the heart she has for marriage, parenting, and relationships from a Christian perspective, feel free to “like” her on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/pages/cheri-Swalwell. She loves to interact with her readers, so she would love to connect at clSwalwell99@gmail.com or Facebook: www.facebook.com/pages/cheri-Swalwell
Website: http://www.cheriswalwell.com (Has link to my blog) or Twitter: Cheri Swalwell
Purchase Link: (paperback)
http://www.amazon.com/40-Day-Habit-Between-Friends/dp/1481033069/ref=&tag= cheswaficfrot-20* for easy ordering. Thanks, Cheri. Next week I will feature vol 2. which is aimed to help mothers. Have a great week readers. Don’t forget to leave a comment for Cheri HERE.